Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
James 3:5-6 “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell.”
Did you ever walk away from someone and feel as if you needed to take a bath? As if you were just dirtied somehow? Our words and how they are framed can cause much damage – even death – or be the very cause of life in someone.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue:”
Death words. ‘Never’. ‘Always’. ‘I can’t’. ‘I won’t’. These have definitive lines drawn; absolute meanings. The words “I hate you” can be something that haunts you the rest of your life if left unresolved. Silence can be just as deadly. But our words come forth from a mouth that has a piece of flesh that weighs only 70 grams or about 2-1/2 ounces.
We all have had times when the moment the words left our mouth, we wished we had never said them. A horse as described in James, has need of a bridle to tame their spirit and direct their path. An unruly horse will have a more brutal type that will almost choke the horse if pulled back harshly. Such a large beast can be tamed using such an instrument. Yet, we are left to bridle our tongue and its fruit.
Our parents, and I would hope parents still today hold to the axiom, “Think before you speak”. In this instant messaging age and social media, we often do not think about what it is we say, what it is we post and just how it will be perceived. I have, in anger, hurt the ones closest to me. I have also unleashed my frustration on some poor undeserving soul who just so happened to cut me off in traffic.
Each time, I never ceased to be a child of God. Each time, I never failed to be a representative – an ambassador – for the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. Since trusting Christ as my Savior, I will always and forever be His child. My speech, my manner of life, my conduct, and even as I write this blog – my words will be remembered by those who hear them.
We will, all of us, leave an indelible footprint on those we come in contact with. We should all take heed to ask God what and how we should speak. David knew of its importance.
Psalm 19:14 “Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.”
When anger rises, may our prayer be as David’s – ‘Father, guard my tongue and help me speak as You would to such an one.’ Where angry words would come, may our prayer be that the Holy Spirit would prevail to speak through us. Words of kindness, words or peace. Often, the way to diffusing a hostile situation is how we respond.
Proverbs 15:1 “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
When I answer someone in this manner, I have found that it calms MY heart; it calms MY soul and opens the door for others to follow.
What we talk about and who we talk about says much about our character. I heard it said:
Little men talk about people, big men talk about things and great men share dreams and visions. We can never escape talking about any of these – but what prevails, what has the preeminence? If only the Lord could invade every part of our conversation throughout every portion of every day, it might well be spoken of us that we truly walk with God – because that’s all we talk about!
Have a great weekend!