Psalm 78:4 “We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done.”
I am my father’s son.
I carry with me traits that were evident in him when he was alive and are now seen in me. Some might say it is his looks. Others, his mannerisms. Still, some might say the way I work or carry myself are all evidence of my father’s influence.
I have seen others and how they handle themselves in situations and circumstances and take to myself what they say, or how they accomplish a thing.
If we were to take what was given us in the past, gleaned from it that which is good, and then add to it that which we have learned; our children will be that much better than we will ever be… IF that is how it works.
Yet God admonishes us, yea, commands us to teach the generation to follow the things God has done.
Deuteronomy 6:7 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”
There might be some that say, “I have no children” or “My children won’t listen to me.”
Take the time to prayerfully consider ‘adopting’ one of the young people in your church and mentoring them. If they have parents, work it out with them to be an outside influence to maybe further a gift or talent you see in them.
It might be there are children without a father or a mother. We see so many single-parent homes today that you do not have to look far.
There was a man who attended our addictions program who passed away about four years ago. His son had cancer as a two-year-old and is now in total remission. His mother also attended our program. We reached out to her and matched her son with an elderly man in our church.
He would take him out to eat, to ballgames and spend time mentoring him. Just recently, this young man received the assurance of his salvation and got baptized. After he came out of the changing room, he was greeted by “Grandpa” who gave him a big hug.
Couples who cannot have children of their own should adopt. Then, a child growing up in a Christian home can inherit a heritage previously unavailable to them.
Parents must be willing to engage in the teaching and training of the ones in their charge. It is a day-by-day, moment-by-moment business. And, it doesn’t get any easier when they become older. But, it is one of the most rewarding vocations of which you can take part.
There are no guarantees that they will always turn out, no bumps in the road or failures along the way. As long as they get back up, there is hope. The real challenge comes when they fail or disappoint us. What we do in those next few moments will guide them to restoration or push them further away.
I have come to realize that I must allow my adult children to find their own way without Dad’s interference. Unless they ask, advice will not come from my lips. Most often, they know where their mother and I stand. I want them always to know that there is an open door, forgiveness, and mercy in abundance, a place to stay if need be, and, encouragement to get back in the race.
Those steps will be marked with a testimony of God’s promise, His goodness, His love, and His grace.
Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Once the training is given and received and taken from my home, I await the fruit that will come of it. But, it is not, nor will it ever be by my manipulation, expectation, or condemnation. The training will continue till I pass from this world into my Heavenly home.
When my father passed away this last September, I knew that I could no longer go to him for advice or talk over the many things we talked about. That mantle was passed on to now be my Heavenly Father. I can speak of His faithfulness, His love, His mercy, grace, and forgiveness. He will never fail, nor leave me, nor forsake me.
Let us purpose in our hearts to tell any and all of the beautiful works that God has done among us. May we be known as that one that will always try to bring Jesus into our conversations.