Proverbs 31:3-5 “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink: Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.”
The influence of a mother is vital in the growth of her children.
Throughout history, we see how a mother’s influence forms the men they raised. Here, in Proverbs 31, we hear firsthand the impact of Bathsheba from her son Solomon.
Lemuel was one of many names Solomon went by in this book. He is also known as Jedidiah, Koheleth, Son of Jakeh, and Agur. To hear how this man’s character was formed is interesting. You can listen to her voice instructing and teaching her son, knowing that he is destined to become king in succession to his father, David.
With that in mind, it is interesting to view this proverb through her influence on her son.
Bathsheba was first, wife to Uriah, a high ranking military man in king David’s army. Uriah himself was a man of high character and integrity revealed when David tried to cover his sin by trying to trick Uriah into sleeping with his wife had brought him from the battlefield.
The events that followed; David’s written letter for Joab to have Uriah murdered on the battlefield, taking her to wife, the death of the child, and then the exposure to the kingdom of David’s failure gave her a front seat to all of it.
She must have suffered accusations, shunning, and an overall disdain from those around her. It was not uncommon for such corruption in royalty, but to be the object of a kingdom’s sin made her a pariah.
As time progressed and sins are forgotten, Bathsheba settled into her role as one of the many wives of the king. Each of these women had children by David. Each with the same hope that their son would succeed their father on the throne. Why not one of the others?
Consider Abigail. She met David with presents for him and his men as they traveled. Her husband, Nabal, was described as a vulgar man who rejected David’s request for food and lodging along their way. Abigail, knowing that David would execute retribution on such a man, went out to quell David’s anger.
In doing so, God wrought judgment against her husband, and David took this woman as his wife when Nabal died. She was a woman of strong character and integrity.
So, as I read Proverb 31 as my scheduled reading today, I heard the voice of Bathsheba as she instructed her son.
In today’s world, we see the attack on the family to destroy the mother’s influence. Financial strain, pressures to step outside of our God-ordained roles, and selfishness have overtaken the desire to parent a legacy and heritage that would honor the God of Heaven.
In recent decades, women have fought traditional roles to want what men have and be recognized as equals.
Here in America, we have seen what the ERA (Equal Rights Amendment) has done to the family. Children are left in daycare to allow both parents to pursue their careers. Those precious years that form a child’s character and personality are left to someone other than Mom or Dad.
I do not wish to pursue this much further and get on my soapbox to preach, but, if every child of God who is a parent would prayerfully seek God for what to do as a parent, I believe that the Christian homes of today would have a more significant influence on the world.
My mother passed away in 2001. Her voice still rings in my ears with wisdom, love of family, and a challenge to use my God-given talents. She was a passionate woman who spoke her mind. Often, it ruffled feathers, but that was who she was. She didn’t mince words.
I take the best of her with me in my life. I have tried to fulfill God’s command to honor her and her memory.
Though it is not THE day designated to honor Moms, I salute those of you who take up the prestigious role of Mother to your children. As a husband and father, I know it is not an easy task. You have my utmost respect, and I pray that the fruit of your labor and investment is seen in the lives of your children and grandchildren.