1 Thessalonians 5:21-22 “Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. Abstain from all appearance of evil.”
The most cherished relationships in my life have three universal characteristics.
They are transparency, honesty, and accountability. These three make up the core upon which all relationships thrive. The child of God should hold to these as the lifeblood that courses through our veins.
Without transparency, we will veil our vulnerability in a shroud of secrecy. We will lie about what we fail and fear the rebuke of anyone who would dare tell us what we are unwilling to say to ourselves.
Coming to realize that God sees all, knows all, and has power overall should comfort us. When I can come in prayer, confessing what my Heavenly Father already knows is freeing. The guilt and shame abate, and I can see that I am once again loved, accepted, and secure.
We have a principle in our faith-based addiction program, RU Recovery.
“God balances guilt with blame. If we accept the blame, He removes the guilt.”
This based on 1 John 1:9:
1 John 1:9-10 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make him a liar, and his word is not in us.”
Verse ten ought to punch us in the gut.
To gloss over or neglect to confess our sin is to call God a liar.
Romans 3:4 “God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.”
Within each of us is the desire to be accepted. We fear to put the raw, unfiltered “us” in front of people. We feel the rejection would be too much. Instead, we put on masks to make people believe we are this person who is without problems, struggles, trials, and tribulations.
We fail to realize we are all in the same situation.
1 Corinthians 10:13 “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”
We are all desiring love, acceptance, and security.
To look to anyone else other than God will surely fail.
Psalm 56:11 “In God have I put my trust: I will not be afraid what man can do unto me.”
Psalm 118:8-9 “It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in man. It is better to trust in the LORD than to put confidence in princes.”
When we trust God and wholly rest in the love, acceptance, and security He gives, we can remove our masks, knowing that God has our back no matter what.
Deception, especially when we deceive ourselves, is detrimental to our wellbeing. We forget what lies we told whom, and soon we are found out. We cannot and must not trust our own hearts.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”
When we rest in the calm assurance of God’s love, we can remove the mask, knowing He will love us and never leave us no matter what.
Hebrews 13:5 “Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
It is one thing to know the truth. It is wholly another to believe it enough to take down our masks for all to see the real you.
No matter what man may say or do, we can gain confidence in our relationship with our Heavenly Father when we deal transparently, honestly and allow ourselves to be held accountable.