Proverbs 12:22 “Lying lips are abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly are his delight.”
We never teach our children to lie. Yet, we uncover their lies and wonder how did this happen?
Romans 3:4 “God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.”
We are kept from honesty by many things.
We fear the incrimination of our wrongdoing or the results of our actions.
We try to hide who we are on the inside, fearing we won’t be accepted. Many hide who they really are because they do not like themselves and fear others won’t either.
For some, lying comes easy. Others find it hard to lie to those who know and love them.
Honesty, in its rawest form, can be brutal. Telling someone that they look foolish or said or did something wrong can be hurtful. Yet, we all need someone in our life that is willing to tell us what we are not willing to say to ourselves.
A true friend can say things to us that most would not because we know it is said in love.
Before I came to Christ, I thought myself a good liar. I lied to cover up my addiction. I lied to cover my mistakes with finances. I lied to keep others from knowing how wholly inadequate I felt.
After salvation, the conviction of my lying ways came to light, and I had to deal with it.
Because it came easy, I asked God for help. I lied less. When I did lie, I would often stop and tell the person of my untruth and make it right.
I found a wonderful gift when I began to be open and honest with God. Admitting my sin in all its ugliness was hard. But, I began to realize the love that came with forgiveness.
I had thought that God would reject me for what I’d done. What I found was exactly the opposite.
Through confession and repentance, I felt I was drawn closer, not cast out.
I began to understand that God’s love toward me is not dependent on my performance for Him or anything I do. His love for me is unconditional, offered without requirement, and never diminished because of behavior.
The more honest I was, the more loved I felt.
In confession, I began to describe to God my thought process to my decision to sin.
James 1:13-15 “Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man: But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.”
In practicing this process, I began to realize the triggers to my sin, the lies of Satan that I thought was true, and my weakness toward certain sins.
My prayers included asking for discernment to see where my heart departed from His way. My prayers were for strength where I thought I was strong.
I began to realize I could not trust my heart to lead me and found the only answer was to rely on God for even the smallest of decisions.
Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
So many of us know and can quote these verses. Yet, we utterly fail in the application.
We trust for God some things and leave off the other decisions to our thought process. Our own hearts can deceive us.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”
We reject the label “Liar” yet, we lie anyway. When I am honest with myself, confess and repent of those lies, I become free to deal honestly with God, myself, and others.
If you were to ask me if I am a liar, I would respond, “I have lied in the past, and I am trying to be truthful in all that I say and do.”
Lying, as stated in today’s passage, is an abomination to God. We don’t fully grasp the meaning.
Webster’s defines abomination:
“Extreme hatred, detestation (abhorrence).”
If God tells me He feels that way about my lying, I want to stop to please Him.